One slight problem - I can't learn.
That's absolutely false. You've learned to use computers, you've learned the english language, you've learned to dress yourself and feed yourself.
Saying that you can't learn is 100% contrary to the scientific evidence. What you really mean is that when you've tried to learn something that you don't have experience with, you've gotten bored and have given up.
That's an entirely different thing.
I'm truely "incompetent".
Incompetent means you don't have skill. That's the definition of incompetence.
I'm incompetent in thousands of areas - for example, I'm incompetent at rocket science, because I've never learned it.
Until I learned programming, I was incompetent at it. The cure for incompetence is both doing (acquiring your own experience) and studying (learning from other people's experience).
Millions of Americans nowadays claim they can't learn, or that they are stupid, or have short attention spans, or whatever. Sometimes they even have doctors notes giving them life-long permission to fail and blame others for it. It's ridiculously stupid.
What you don't understand - and listen, this is the truth here - is that mental focus, intelligence, knowledge, skillsets, and physical fitness, all come from exercising those muscles by
studying and
doing.
If you read my post, you would've noticed this well. [...] that would be noticable.
Only thing that's noticable is a lack of effort, not a lack of capabilities.
So, How can I take baby steps ON MY OWN if I can't learn?
Three steps:
A) Stop believing the lies other people tell you.
B) Stop believing the lies you tell yourself.
C) Start reading.
D) Start doing.
E) Repeat steps 'C' and 'D' for the rest of your life. The more you repeat it, the more intelligent and skilled you become.
I tried in school and failed. Is there something wrong with me?
Nope, if you're in America, the school systems are ridiculously and stupidly broken. Incredibly incredibly so. Or, at least they were in California.
American (or possibly just Californian) schools now (A) fail to teach important skills and knowledge and (B) teach negative skills and knowledge.
You've been sabotaged by incompetence and bureaucracy. Congratulations! (welcome to the club)
You have two choices:
A) Mope about it, and live your life neutered of skill and intelligence, and blame everyone else for it.
B) You can deal with it by rising above it and taking your education into your own hand. Pick a subject, study it online, practice it. No 'buts' - you
can do it, every human can.
Also, read. Go to the library, pick up five books, read them, return them, get five more. Anything written more than 30 years ago. The very act of reading exercises your mind.
It'll be hard at first, because your mind hasn't been exercised much at all. But slow progress doesn't mean no progress, and pain and frustration doesn't mean something's broken, it means something is being exercised properly.